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Je Ne Regrette Rien

7th Apr 18

Whenever we make a choice, we make it from the highest level of our consciousness in that given moment.  That’s not to say that the choice is the right one.  Sometimes we make the wrong choice for a number of reasons; maybe all the facts weren’t to hand, maybe there was an underlying  pressure to make a snap decision or perhaps judgement was clouded by emotion.

Think for a moment.  Is there anything that you’ve said or done in the past that you wish you could undo or take back?  If your answer is yes, then you are not alone!

How many of us torture ourselves over a bad decision?  How many of us feel that they do not deserve or are worthy of forgiveness?  An experience like this can weigh heavy on our heart; it can cause us to question our self-worth, to lose confidence and to continually punish ourselves. 

Here though is the truth:  Good people can make bad choices but bad choices don’t make a bad person.  I’ll repeat that once more:  Good people can make bad choices but bad choices don’t make a bad person.

If you can hold your hands up and admit that you have been in the wrong, without making any excuses for that decision or trying to place the blame elsewhere and if you can with hand on heart and all the knowledge that you have now, know that if you were in the same situation right now, you would make a different choice, then you are entitled to forgiveness.

You can reclaim ownership of your life by giving yourself permission to accept the valuable lessons learned from your mistakes, accept that you are no longer the same person you were then and that you have evolved.  Take a deep breath in, release and let it go.  Carrying all that baggage around serves absolutely no purpose other than to steal the joy from life.

Have you ever felt that you were backed into a corner and couldn’t have chosen differently no matter how much you wished or tried?  Take a deep breath in, release and let it go.  You were doing the best you could with the tools you had. Accept that, embody that and allow the peace to flood in. Doing your best is what matters, you cannot ask anymore of yourself than that.  You are enough.

What if you have been on the receiving end of someone else’s bad choice or even continual bad choices?  Here is where you have a choice.  You can remain a victim, seething with anger or hurt or you can use the situation to become empowered.  Those that appear to be the sharpest thorns in our sides can actually be our greatest teachers. Take a deep breath in, release and let go.  The anger and hurt we carry causes only self-suffering.  Who needs regrets based on the actions of someone else?  We have no power or control over anyone but our self, someone else’s behaviour doesn’t in any way reflect on us, only on them.  Take a deep breath in, release and let go. 

It may help to spend a few minutes each day sitting in stillness and silence and invite love, kindness, compassion into your being.  Invite each one in turn and understand that all forgiveness begins with self-forgiveness, so repeat over and over: "I forgive myself, I forgive myself, I forgive myself" and allow love, kindness, compassion and forgiveness to flow through you, expand and settle within.

You have the power to turn regret into acceptance, grief into gratitude, sadness into joy and all those limiting beliefs into infinite possibilities.

Ann x

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